Hi, You can call me G. I've been looking into the solo mother by choice (SMBC) route since 2022.
I've been doing lots of research to understand this choice better, how it would work, and understanding other solo mum experiences.
So far, I've found there is a LOT of really useful information available, especially online, but it was scattered everywhere. Across different websites, books, and podcasts.
So I started documenting what I've found and sharing here online to help others that are also thinking about becoming solo mothers by choice.
I hope this info hub will also be useful to friends, family, colleagues and strangers who would like to learn more about solo mothers by choice.
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PS: In no way am I trying to persuade anyone to 'pick sides' when it comes to the SMBC journey. I simply want to put all the information I've found in one place, while trying to be as objective as possible. I do sometimes share my key takeaways from the resources I have used. You may look at the resources I found, and have your own key learnings different to mine.
PPS: While the focus is mainly on solo mothers by choice, I hope it is useful for any potential solo parent by choice who do not identify as a woman.
Ok, enough from me, bye!
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Those deciding whether to be a solo mum by choice, or have already decided.
The terms are often used interchangeably. It was quite hard to think about the most appropriate name for this website.
'Single' mum felt like it focussed too much on the relationship status of the mum. And I felt didn’t capture mums by choice who bring new life into the world, but may have a relationship where the partner is not the social parent (caregiver) for the child. And would include mums who had split from their partner after they had a child together.
'Solo' mum felt more appropriate, to capture solo mums by choice who are having children 'on their own' from the get-go without any other person named on the birth certificate, taking full social and legal responsibility of the child. Although a lot of solo mums are actually raising the child with a village ("it takes a village").
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